Written from KS’s perspective
You know she’s the one. She knows you’re the one. So the efficient Singaporean way is to whip out a HDB application form (for those outside of Singapore, HDB refers to government subsidized housing).
Erm… That’s not what I want to tell my kids when they ask how I proposed. No way I propose like that.
No. Way. In. Hell.
“Aw man… Daddy’s so unromantic.”
No. It’s got to be at least “Huh, well, at least Daddy tried.”
Besides, it’s an unspoken expectation of women (probably the only one all men know) that every one of them wants a memorable marriage proposal if they were to ever get married. Every last one of them.
Anyway, let’s move on. So I know I’ve got to propose. Or try to. So I got to first have an idea of what I want to do.
Here’s MY expectations. It’s got to be encapsulated in some physical content, most of it. Why?
I know of people whose proposal is heavily dependent on setting which poses a few problems for me.
- If you have a lot to say or share, chances are, unless you give a lot of speeches, you might just mess the proposal up.
- Most recollection of the proposal will be in the memories if it’s more about the perfect setting. And memories fade. Recollections can become highly inaccurate. And couples may argue over the details after a while.
- In the perfect setting, many things can go wrong and your highly co-ordinated efforts can be potentially jeopardized by factors outside your control. When it comes to screwing up things up, I’m pretty good at it. So I’m leaving as little to chance.
- Also,a 5-star place or luxurious travel would kill the wallet and well, Jinda’s quite considerate about said container for my money. She would probably even say I wasted it if I did this. *wipes sweat off forehead*
- It’s harder to share the proposal to those who ask, especially with kids and grandkids, etc.
- My original plan was an AMV/photo montage hybrid, and I would have done a great job of it, but I probed Jinda before and she did not think highly of such an idea.
So my choice of weapon? A scrapbook of all the things I want to say. Why?
Because it would resolve most of the issues mentioned above. That’s it.
- It can be relived, easy to share, doesn’t require speech recital, would draw attention away from most screw-ups in setting and doesn’t cost a(nother) bomb (since we already spent it on materials that were now lying around).
Granted that context is still important so I still have to do the obligatory flowers, nice venue and needless to say, the diamond engagement ring. I know some girls say they prefer gemstones. Whatever. I’m going with diamond.
Next Step:Â Preparation and Execution